Dear Tara – I don’t know who I am, How do I find out what is right for me?

Dear Tara,

Ever since I transitioned in to this new phase of my life I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore. Back in school I thought I knew who I was and what I wanted in life, but now that I have worked for a while and been with the same person for some years I am not entirely sure if that’s what I want. Maybe it is also quarantine, but I feel like there is more options to explore but I am scared to take one of them because I don’t know what I can expect and there’d be so much I have to give up.

Thanks for your help!

I don’t know who I am

Hi I don’t know who I am,

First of all, I know how you feel. I believe this pandemic was or is hard for all of us and being so isolated and have our building blocks for happiness been taken away, it is normal to loose a sense of identity.

You know, transitioning into a new phase of your life or having big things change in your life can always shake things up a bit. But that is something beautiful as well! It gives you the opportunity to reassess and figure out what YOU want to do next.

It is also very common that because we change, what we believe to be the dream life, will also change with us. As I am hearing you’re still young and you still have your whole life ahead of you. Those two ways of living are just a fraction of what you could experience so don’t worry so much about that feeling of being lost. It’s just you transition into a beautiful new stage of your life.

Now when it comes to the being scared part, I know that making changes and giving things up can be scary and it is advisable to really consult your inner guidance on whether or not what awaits you is worth giving up what you have. But let me tell you, even though you don’t know what’s to come, it is going to be beautiful. Challenging maybe, hard sometimes, a lesson always. We need to take those leaps in order to progress and move forward. So really ask yourself what is it that you really want? What would make you incredibly happy right now? What does your dream life look like? What are you willing to let go? And what is worth holding onto?

Once you have the answers come back to me and we can see how to move forward. Maybe you want to consider joining my DreamLife Program just to make sure you push past the fear and make the choices that are truly the right ones for you and then go out there and create the life you imagine for yourself.

Lots of love, Tara