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Want to learn how to be productive as a perfectionist and/or need to establish more self-love because you are always so hard on yourself? Then you are exactly where you need to be. This post is a toolkit for all perfectionists to learn to master life & themselves.
Imagine what it would look like to be productive and ACTUALLY feel productive. To be satisfied with your accomplishments at the end of the day and feel good about yourself.
Imagine what it would feel like to love yourself completely and appreciate yourself for the hard work you put in every day.
Imagine what would be possible if you could finally see your worth, celebrate your achievements and enjoy the life you have created for yourself without constantly wanting more and not quite feel like you’re there yet.
I will tell you what it will feel like: AMAZING.
For years, I have struggled with my perfectionism. I thought I was productive but in reality I wasn’t, I was procrastinating and overthinking and most sadly feeling unaccomplished at the end of the day no matter how much, how long or how well I was working.
I was super hard on myself and had a hard time loving myself the way I was. I felt like I needed to improve, I was micro managing my personal growth and putting a lot of restrictions and pressure on myself to be better, be prettier, be more productive, be …
It totally burned me out and left me feeling unhappy, sad, unloved and unappreciated. But once I learned to master my perfectionism and practice self-love and be really productive so much changed.
And now I am feeling exactly what I described above and so much more LOVE, JOY, LIGHT. And you can too – keep reading!
To practice self-love and be productive as a perfectionist you need to do three things: Understand your perfectionism, master your perfectionism, move past your perfectionism.
Let’s start from the beginning…
When it comes to increasing productivity and self-love you first need to understand the ways in which you are not being productive or loving yourself. Journal on all the ways in which you procrastinate, postpone, do busy work, avoid, overthink, overwork, overanalyse, overdo, … There are so many ways in which perfectionist sabotage their productivity so be really honest with yourself and be objective too. Maybe even ask a friend or colleague who knows your working style to give you feedback on what you think you could do differently.
When it comes to self-love it is similar. Brainstorm all the ways in which you are being too hard on yourself, put yourself down or criticise yourself.
The more you understand the ways in which you treat yourself wrongly the more you can work on mastering ways to help you stop.
The second step then is to master your perfectionism. Now that you know how it shows up and holds you back from loving yourself and being productive you need to detect it on the daily. As you go about your day recognize yourself falling into those patterns and stop yourself.
Establish a practice that helps you get out of that state of mind and prevent you from procrastinating, criticising, negative self-talk, … whatever it is that brings out the perfectionist in you.
One thing I love doing is to just say “STOP IT”, then I do exactly the opposite of what I first intended to do e.g. if I realized I was procrastinating on a task because I didn’t feel ready yet, I would say “stop it” and do that task right away.
The more you practice this the better you will get.
Alongside developing strategies to master your perfectionism as it arises it is really important to move past it and reframe the beliefs and thoughts that lead you to develop perfectionism and normalise it.
I want you to know that we all have a bit of perfectionism within us and that’s healthy, it can be a good thing as long as it fuels us and not holds us back. But once it gets obsessive or in our way we need to work on those patterns and normalise the beliefs that nurture this behaviour.
So reflect on what lead you to think this way. What lead you to develop this behaviour and then find ways to reframe this belief.
If you feel you need help with that I would love for you to check out the DreamLife Program. It is specifically designed for perfectionists and will help you to move past perfectionism in no time.
Also I have another really special treat for you if you want to learn more about self-love… Check out my interview with the Authority Magazine.
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